How to Give Yourself a Chance to Achieve Your Utmost Aspiration

Success is not achieving a goal but it has everything to do with it. Success said Gustave Flaubert is a result, not a goal. If the statement ‘success is a journey not a destination’ is anything to go by, then success means more than just a goal. To achieve you earnest desire, you have to go about it realistically and purposefully. And to do that there is need for laying down a plan with specific goals in mind. Goal setting means to success more than a map or light in darkness, it helps you really get a handle on what you really want.
Control is key, isn’t it obvious why most people fall short of expectation or cant’ achieve desired goals even when they really want to? They had nothing on it. Responsibility is a hidden handle to control. When you shift or dodge responsibility, you consciously by neglect or unconsciously by ignorance sabotage your ability to exercise authority and control or even effect change. Seeds of success is about bringing to the fore those little but fundamental factors or levers as I call them which when applied produce incremental effect.
In a broad sense success is a continuous journey which involves setting goals and achieving them, breaking barriers, improving the status quo, enlightening the understanding, pursuing higher values and becoming a better, broader, finer and cultivated being towards the ultimate good. Success is a continuum. But the challenge that immediately presents itself is incontinuity (whether as a result of failure or lack of ability). The road to success is dotted with many tempting parking spaces.

There isn’t a level of attainment where anybody is guarantied problem or challenge free life, if the individual is of the improvement conscious breed and not the mediocre class who would rather maintain the status quo than meeting failure in the attempt to improve. In the journey of success there’s no fantasy land where problems don’t exist. So don’t think you are hard done when you don’t find one.

But the tweak lies in seeing problems as challenges that prepare and improve you for the next, that’s a winning attitude. Imagine a lad playing a computer game, no matter how difficult a level is, he attempts to win it, in doing that knows the next level will be harder but he expects it with excitement. He sees the next as his biggest challenge thus far and knows he must improve his performance to win. That’s a progressive attitude.
You have heard that success is not a sudden flight. Your biggest dash may not get you from point ‘A’ to point ‘Y’ but it can get you from ‘A’ to ‘B’ and that is improvement. You can measure success, yes you can categorize it. What level of success do you want now and here (bearing in mind then and there)? Most people have a clear picture of what they want, the amount of success they aspire and I think but not moderately that everybody knows what they want to a reasonable precision whether in business, relationship or personal life, we all want good success. But is that enough? With that alone your biggest dash may not get you from point ‘A’ to ‘B’. The mistake most people make is equating their ultimate goal to the current objectives they have to fulfill to eventually achieve the success in the big picture. At different times, success means different things. The success of tomorrow may make little sense in the face of today’s challenges. Hence the pursuit loses steam and fall short. Be practical and intelligent in your pursuit. Goal setting is your most important tweak in your tool box to really get a handle on the success you intend.
  1. You start being successful the moment you know specifically what you want and declare to achieve. Develop the habit of being precise with what you want and declaring it. What do you want? Anything, any kind of job replied a job seeker. Ok, go downstairs ask the cleaner to put you through with his routines, you will be working with him onwards. No, please Sir replied the job seeker, you know that’s not what I want, I’m better than that. 
  2. You get what you want. How often we here that and how little the sense most people make from it? If you want success you will get it and it’s no different with failure. Who in the right senses wants failure you ask? Obvious answer, everybody wants success but very few choose it. We usually know what we ultimately want by our good intentions but when it comes to how to get it, majority choose wrongly by poor decision making. What informs your decision?
  3.  You get what you ask for. How do you ask and from whom do you ask? Let’s start from the latter, it’s clever to seek professional advice, it’s wise to begin the asking from you. Ask yourself all the questions that be and provide the answers to the best of your intuition. That way you get to assess yourself and possibly cover your bases. Imagination is powerful and boundless; it’s the best source of knowledge.  A good way of asking is setting a course, a line of action or plan and then demanding that the objectives or goal of the set plan be achieved. Heaven, the universe, people (call it what you want) help those who help themselves. There is no way any of these three can help you, if in effect they have nothing to help you with. Ask for their help but give them a handle at least. He that needs help must first show himself ready to receive it.

It’s not enough to know what you want, that doesn’t get you far, take another step to know how you can achieve it. Questions are very powerful especially the how questions. Goal setting helps bring into perspective what you can expectant if you derail along the line it help realign your attention on the course. It’s quite easy to lose attention. Nobody knows tomorrow they say, but we can know what to expect don’t we? I will prepare myself said Lincoln and my opportunity will come. Opportunity wastes no time with the unprepared.
A good way to prepare for the unknown is to know what to expect. You increase in confidence when you meet your expectations. You win trust and respect when you meet other people’s expectation.
The big picture of the success we desire is always there in clear view of our mind, the natural question however is how do you intend to achieve that?  Afford yourself the opportunity to actualize it, have a plan set the goal and pursue it, it’s that difficult. Whether you can achieve it? I strongly think you can. Just note the 3 keys to achieving anygoal. All successful people are characterized by this one virtue, they know what they want and then they pursue it with dogged determination. What keeps them on track? They constantly focus their mind on achieving what they want; they plan and purposefully pursue it.


Seed of the Day

To conquer inaction caused by fear of failure consider Edison’s recommendation; “to succeed faster you
must have to increase your chances of failure


The Seed that Grows Good

Where honour ceaseth, there knowledge decreaseth. The natural question is, what has respect got to do with success? Respect is a virtue that most people see as either really modest or out of place when compared with values like integrity, hard work, honesty etcetera. Respect is a seed, it’s one of the most basic and sometimes most overlooked values that can be developed and applied. It is an essential ingredient for a pleasing personality. Have you ever wondered how some people get to see what most other persons can’t? There are three categories of people, few who see things before they happen, many who realize it when it happens and the overwhelming majority who have no idea of what happened.

Respect as an attitude when rightly applied creates a consciousness, which tends to see beyond the superficial, whether it’s dealing with people things or ideas. The cure as I see it, said Herbert Hall is to be found in the cultivation of the faculty that finds some good in everything and everybody. The ability to see good is a function of respect. A plunge begins when one starts failing to recognize because they have refused by failure to observe and regard the good in anything. Who is as blind as the one who refuses to see? The ability to see good has long characterized some of the finest minds.

Like many other virtues, respect is not bestowed. Cultivating a faculty that finds good in everybody and everything begins by developing an attitude of respect for everybody and everything for what they do or are. You may not respect a dog for being a dog and you a human but you can give its due regard for what it does. Why bark when you have a dog? One who develops the capacity for respect creates the capacity to see good. Respect is a reward anyone can receive who practices their highest virtues.


Seed of the Day

Pure upright living and steady devotion to principles are the surest foundations of any success worth having - Julia Ward Howe

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